3 a.m., again. The baby is finally asleep. You should be too. Instead, you're staring at the monitor, doing the math on how many hours until you have to check if they're still breathing. If this sounds familiar, and you got here after infertility, there's a reason this particular flavor of anxiety feels so tangled: it's not just postpartum anxiety. It's postpartum anxiety with years of bracing for loss built into it.

Here are two things that are both true at the same time: you can be more grateful for this baby than words can hold. And you can also be quietly struggling more than anyone around you realizes. Nobody warns you that infertility doesn't simply end the moment your baby arrives. It just changes shape.

Here are two things that are both true at the same time: you can be more grateful for this baby than words can hold. And you can also be quietly struggling more than anyone around you realizes. Nobody warns you that infertility doesn't simply end the moment your baby arrives. It just changes shape.

If you're navigating pregnancy loss and searching for support, you may be wondering whether virtual therapy can really help, especially for something this personal. Here's what to know about virtual perinatal therapy for pregnancy loss in Illinois, and how to know if it's the right fit for you.

What if the thing holding you back from starting therapy isn't fear of the work, but fear of how long it will take? That question is worth sitting with, because it's often the real reason people put off processing a difficult pregnancy, birth, or infertility experience.

There's a version of you that still stands in that exam room. Still hears the words on repeat. Still flinches at ultrasounds, due dates, or a stranger's baby announcement, even though the calendar insists enough time has passed.

If you've ever thought about trying EMDR or had someone suggest it to you, chances are you've also heard a rumor or two about what it actually involves. Between TV portrayals and word-of-mouth, a lot of what people "know" about EMDR isn't quite right. Let's clear up the biggest misconceptions, one myth at a time.